The feelings of invisibility in midlife with Jane Tara
Have you ever felt invisible and like you needed to 'rediscover your sense of self'?
This week I am talking with Jane Tara, the author of Tilda is Visible, one of the hottest bestsellers on the women’s fiction list right now.
Tilda is visible is a very relatable story for women in modern midlife. It’s about a woman in her 50s who wakes up one morning and her little finger and her ear are missing. She’s diagnosed with invisibility by her doctor. The story is a comedic fiction book about her journey to see herself again. It’s an easy read, and I love that there’s a juicy love interest, and a few really powerful self-help lessons woven together into the book. It tackles a time of life that isn’t written about in this way very often. We don’t talk enough about the feelings of invisibility in midlife.
The book is resonating because it talks about a very relatable stage of midlife that may not be commonly spoken about.
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What’s in the podcast:
Feeling invisible at home, in the workplace and to ourselves in midlife. Learning to see ourselves more clearly and through kind eyes. Learning to know yourself more deeply in midlife.
The re-identification or process of finding oneself that many people go through in midlife once their kids form their own identities.
The book builds in the lessons from the study of neuroplasticity – how you talk to yourself and how you adapt your brain’s neural signals.
How do we see ourselves? The voices in our head and how they shape our self-beliefs, and how that voice works. The program that frames us internally.
Neuroplasticity gives us the ability to reprogram our brain. Reprogramming your inner thoughts and program to be kinder to ourselves.
Developing perspective. Jane was misdiagnosed with a degenerative eye condition. She was told she was going blind, and this created the foundation for Tilda, the lead character in the book. This got her considering the importance of seeing the world, and most importantly seeing herself growing old.
The benefits of meditation through Tilda’s eyes, considering how meditation can play a role in adjusting the way we react. How Jane uses meditation in real life and how she practices. The ability to explore meditation and learn about it through comedic fiction.
Getting to know our own personal programs, starting to be more kind to ourselves.
If you have felt invisible, and you’ve found ways to manage it or even better, to recover from it, please leave us some comments in the comments section here.
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Can you see retirement in your future? Consider taking our epic ‘Retirement Planning’ survey.
This week I’ve kicked off the first of two really important surveys that will allow me to better understand you and guide the industry to give you more of what you need.
The first is the Epic ‘Retirement Planning’ Survey. This is a detailed survey that dives into how you feel about the process of ‘retirement planning,’ what tools you are using and how you are progressing. It also gives me a read on how confident you feel, and what you might need to help you.
It’s all multi-choice so it should be quick and easy. And, you might find some of the questions really get you thinking about the process of retiring, and what you could be doing vs what you are doing. So dive in and help me out - please.
I’ll be using the results to produce a report (which I’ll share with you) and educate the industry - guest speaking for financial advisers, super funds and other companies who really want to do right by you, the modern pre-retirees!
I’ve added a little prize too… Three people who complete the survey in full, including the competition at the end, will win a $100 VISA card (conditions apply). Complete it now.